What is resiliency and why does it matter to us?
Resiliency is defined as, “the capacity to recover quickly from difficulties; toughness.” A second definition is more appropriate for objects or substances: Elasticity.
We are describing resilience when we speak to the ability of a person to cope with the highs and lows of life and bounce back from the obstacles before them. Psychological resilience is a protective mechanism that operates in the face of negative stressors (Masten, 2001; Bonanno, 2004).
Young adults who are resilient can build strong relationships, make sense of the obstacles in their life, and find support to overcome those difficulties. Realistic goals along with good problem-solving skills are traits of a resilient young adult, in addition to having a positive sense of self-worth and control over their lives and decisions.
But… What if they’re not resilient? What happens then?
Our less “elastic” young adults struggle. They struggle with being decisive, staying focused, solving their problems, and achieving their goals. They have difficulty “bouncing back” and often believe that a bad day leads to a bad week or a bad month. This lack of resilience creates a never-ending cycle of anxiety, fear, and failure.
Our job at LifeTutors is to support them in moving forward and learning how to “reboot” after a difficult experience!
We know that that ‘success’ matters less than trying something new and completing a process from start to finish. We also understand that sometimes, failure should be allowed. It creates a chance to begin again and start fresh. In these cases, we encourage young adults to try another approach and not to give up. We encourage accountability and owning our choices and mistakes so we can make a better one next time. We support young adults in taking responsibility for missteps and using it as an opportunity for a teachable moment.
LifeTutors understands that each young adult is different and requires unique support to master living independently and to reach their goals. We offer real time, one-on-one support with a team of dedicated professionals to provide a landing space that helps our clients “bounce back” quickly and efficiently.
Call our team at 828-417-7122 to discuss how we can be there for your family and help your child cultivate the resiliency they need to be successful, no matter what that looks like.
Bonanno GA. 2004. Loss, trauma, and human resilience: have we underestimated the human capacity to thrive after extremely aversive events? Am Psychol 59(1): 20-28
Masten AS. 2001. Ordinary magic: resilience processes in development. Am Psychol 56(3): 227–238. Mehta M, Whyte E